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Wants Can’t Be Discovered in Worries

Wants Can’t Be Discovered in Worries

By on Nov 15, 2013 in Facing Challenges, Healthovers Blog, Mental-emotional, Worrying |

Despite any tricks your brain pulls, it can be helpful to remember that wants can’t be discovered in worries. Worries masquerade inside our heads as being caring, ambitious, and more “on it.” Are they really helping, though? Worrying is the mind’s attempt to exert more control over situations that feel uncertain or uncontrollable to us. With enough worry, we imagine we can tease apart the ultimate answers to life’s problems and get what we want. The act of worrying ties up a lot of energy and potential that can be used in other ways. Ever had an experience where something you want comes around when you’re not constantly worrying about it? Life doesn’t usually seem that concerned with our worries, and it may actually wait until the worrying subsides before opening new doors and opportunities. Worrying is easy and common to fall prey to. What’s challenging is to step back from it and see what else the world is made of. Energy, adventures, uncertainties…not always bad uncertainties. By worrying, we can focus so much on the unnerving side of uncertainty that we lose sight of the other shades of it. Would you want to keep watching movies that you always knew the endings to? With worries, we seek to know the ending right now before going through the meat of the experience itself. Trouble is, worrying doesn’t exactly produce real endings or results, so it can leave us spinning our wheels instead. Next time a worry is waking up with you, piggy backing all day, and snuggling up beside you at night, look at it in the face and ask, “What? What do you want from me?” Reducing its importance will help you remember what you want instead.  ...

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The Door to the Invisible

The Door to the Invisible

By on Oct 21, 2013 in Change, Facing Challenges, Healthovers Blog |

Imagine you’re facing a door, and on the other side of that door is change. In order to move forward you have to open the door without really knowing what’s on the other side. The change is invisible to you from where you’re standing, and the only way to see it is by opening the door. Will you open it? Often, doors to change become visible to us at times when we’re ready for them. They’re not always there, but when they appear they challenge us to make the next move of turning the knob and stepping through the threshold. When the door’s there, it’s hard to ignore it. It won’t let you forget that there’s something you have to face on the other side. It can be tempting to ignore the unknown and stick to the familiarity of your side of the door. Besides, nothing’s forcing you to make the change. However, by pretending the door isn’t there, you can miss out on good opp0rtunities and learning experiences. Even though you have no idea what’s on the other side, that’s okay. Important doors often lead to places where we’ve never been before. Do you see a door you can open toward change? It could be in any area of your life such as personal growth, career, relationships, family, or health. If you’re standing there contemplating whether to make a move, remember it’s okay that you’re not sure what’s on the other side. But the door is there for a reason. Open the door to the invisible.  ...

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The #*!*?! Keeps Coming

The #*!*?! Keeps Coming

By on Oct 21, 2013 in Facing Challenges, Healthovers Blog, Healthy Practices, Learning |

During life, most of us hold our breath and wait for a time that finally feels calm and accommodating to who we are. Do you know the feeling? We work, try, and grapple, hoping that times will change and things will get easier. After small periods of calm, we’re usually thrown back into the mix of stress and ups and downs. Just as you’re waiting to get off an emotional roller coaster, life often buys you a ticket for a new one. What’s that about? The truth is, the #*!*?! keeps coming. The illusion that if you wait long enough or try hard enough, that all the messiness and frustrations of life will stop is just that–an illusion. So what do you do? A big part of living in and staying healthy in reality is coming to terms with the #*!*?! Keeps Coming phenomenon. None of us have a human-desired control over life. We live in a world that is wild no matter how we try and contain it. When you live in the wild, you have to prepare. You prepare first and foremost by taking care of yourself. With the knowledge that storms, lightning, and droughts may be around the corner, you still have to keep up with physical and mental-emotional fitness as much as you can. Preparation helps you to get through new and stressful periods of time that you may not have foreseen (since we don’t have crystal balls at our disposal). You can also make more peace with the fact that #*!*?! Keeps Coming. Have you wanted it to be different? If so, in what ways? Ask yourself if the positive changes you’re hoping for live in fantasy land or in reality. Reality tends to repeatedly present challenges with a common theme if we’re ignoring the bigger picture. Unless we face the challenge head on here and now, we’ll often be met with it again. Finally, it’s okay to step back and not try so hard all the time. Trying your best is admirable. However, some forms of trying resemble banging against a wall over and over again. No matter how hard you try, the wall is still there and you can’t imagine it away. Try...

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No Such Thing as Perfect Health

No Such Thing as Perfect Health

By on Sep 18, 2013 in Everyday Health, Facing Challenges, Healthovers Blog, What is Health |

Is there such a thing as perfect health? Well, is there such a thing as a perfect person? The answer to both questions is:  NO. Human beings go through real life, real challenges, unexpected events, and uncertainty. During this lifetime, there is no such thing as perfect health. The way health is depicted in the medical community and media can sometimes be misleading in this respect. You see perfect specimens of health running down the beach in a commercial or health magazine, and you’re led to believe that every single day unfolds this way for truly healthy people. Commercials depict people who are happily on medications that bypass the need to look deeper into existing health imbalances. A woman eats a container of yogurt and her healthy weight and slim figure are set for eternity. While many of these tactics are marketing strategies, you still have to resist health propaganda out there in the world when the message doesn’t fit you as a person. Do you want to be a perfect person? Or would you rather approach yourself and your health from where you’re at in life? This is a tricky question. It’s undeniable that the shiny tune of the word “perfection” beckons each of us during life. Striving for it can lead to frustration, disappointment, and feeling stuck. Striving for perfect health is no different. Unless you approach your health from a realistic and approachable standpoint, it can always seem so far away, running away from you as you run toward it in its perfect fantasy form. Ever heard of “wabi-sabi”? Wabi-sabi is the Japanese view that accepts imperfection as a form of beauty and balance. To acknowledge wabi-sabi is to see that nothing lasts, nothing is finished, and nothing is perfect. By accepting the wabi-sabi in your health, in your personality, and in your life, you can really appreciate what makes your health and your life tick each day. You can also respect the journey that you take as an individual to feel health in your life amid the very real challenges that come your way. Your health has strengths and it has weaknesses, it has room to grow, and it’s human just like you are. Don’t...

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The Guilt of Going for It

The Guilt of Going for It

By on Sep 18, 2013 in Expression, Facing Challenges, Guilt, Healthovers Blog, Practice Health |

Have you ever wanted something for yourself, and then felt guilty about wanting it? It could be an interest, a goal, a dream, a win, or just about anything. It’s common to want something and to experience guilt or fears of backlash about it. You might even wonder whether life will somehow punish you for following your dreams. The guilt and fear can snowball into a superstitious belief that going for what you want is taboo and dangerous. Sound familiar? Let’s look at this guilt in an open light. First off, what is guilt? Guilt is one word, but it can have many different shades of meaning. The dictionary describes guilt as:  “The fact of having committed a specified or implied offense or crime.” The dictionary says that when you do something wrong, or someone else claims you’ve done something wrong—you feel guilty about it. In fact, there are many other triggers of guilt that have nothing to do with wrong-doing. Guilt can actually come from right-doing. Guilt can result from wanting to do something right—by going for what you want in life! We’re universally taught that certain dreams are acceptable to strive for in life. It often includes a family, a house, an occupation, a cat and a dog. These desires are definitely important to the extent that you want them, but they are not all that life’s made out of. Each individual has unique wants and dreams outside of this picture. What are yours? It’s challenging to go after what you uniquely want, the things that no one else around you is striving for. Thoughts can pop up such as, “What will other people think about this?” or “Am I doing something wrong by going for this?” You might fear that you won’t belong anymore if you set off confidently in pursuit of your dreams. You may also have second thoughts such as: “Am I imagining the importance of wanting this?” or “Am I on the wrong track and hurting others by selfishly wanting this in my life?” The guilt can reach so far as to imply to you: “I’m a bad person.” or “I’m crazy for wanting this.” or even “When are the police coming after...

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Health and Your Inner Teacher

Health and Your Inner Teacher

By on Aug 26, 2013 in Facing Challenges, Healthovers Blog, Learning, Mind-Body, Practice Health |

When you travel the halls of your memory, who do you remember as your most influential teachers? How did these teachers influence your life and change it for the better? Great teachers spark more than math, literature, or science in your life. They spark something else as well, something deeper and long-lasting that stays with you. As an individual living your life, you have another teacher you may not have touched on in your memory. That teacher is you! When you’re trying to get healthy and support your body and mind better, your inner teacher is key toward achieving what you want. Health involves learning. You learn about your body and which lifestyle habits foster balanced health, versus which habits derail health. But you also learn something else. You learn about yourself as a person, how you face challenges, and which obstacles are blocking your road to health. The journey toward health involves more than regimens for diet, exercise, and sleep. The journey is unique to who you are and where you’re at in life too. Bringing out your inner teacher to learn about your health isn’t always easy. Everyone wants to believe they are perfectly healthy, and sometimes facing the reality that your health needs more support can be challenging. It means admitting that you’re not perfect and that you still have more to learn. It takes knowing that supplements, medications, or doctor’s visits alone can’t keep you healthy. You as a person are an essential part of your health, and acknowledging this fact takes honesty and courage. When you call forth your inner teacher in an open and honest way, you can explore your physical and mental-emotional health through a unique lens. You can ask yourself if there are societal and personal expectations that are burdening you and blocking your health. You can explore whether some part of your past unfairly has a hold on your health and who you are today. You can explore your relationships with yourself and other people to see whether they are supporting or hindering health. You can also notice how you manage stress and emotions and whether your current approach could use some adjustment for better health. Good teachers both challenge...

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