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Perfect:  The Enemy of Good

Perfect: The Enemy of Good

By on Oct 21, 2013 in Healthovers Blog, Learning, Mind-Body, Practice Health |

Why is perfect the enemy of good? Think about it. The message of “perfect” is that you’ll someday attain a status beyond which there’s no point of trying, or learning, or growing. If you’re perfect already, what’s the point of interacting with life and getting something out of it? “Perfect” tricks you into believing that there is a solution and an endpoint.  Do you think that any individual in the history of mankind created something unique by aiming for perfection? It seems to me that more innovative results came from casting perfection to the side in favor of creativity, autonomy, and doing the best you can. If you aim for perfection, you’re placing yourself in a sterile bubble by default. In a bubble of perfection, of course you can see the exact results you want to see in your health, social sphere, family, finances, and personal goals…by omission. You’ll have to omit all the stuff that’s not going perfect. What does this mean? You’ll have to omit a part of yourself in order to reach perfection. Human beings aren’t meant to strive for perfection, they’re meant to adapt. By adapting to the world around us and the unique events we’re each going through, we stay open to possibilities. Perfection doesn’t leave room for possibilities. Why? Because it’s too perfect. Next time you’re aiming for perfection, ask yourself what your mind, heart, and body are really rooting for. Are they seeking adventure? Are they seeking to break out of a bubble of certainty in order to taste what life is offering? Are they asking you to push yourself beyond previously held limitations to get to know yourself better and what you’re really made of? It doesn’t help to seek answers outside of yourself and from other people. Is it worthwhile to get down on yourself because a bunch of people who don’t even know you don’t believe you can reach your goals? Who knows you better than yourself? These are questions to ask yourself when the dazzle of perfection starts glittering stronger than your true desires. Perfect is the enemy of good. Remember that when you’re asking yourself to jump out of your skin to be something you’re not. Is the...

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Playfulness and Health

Playfulness and Health

By on Sep 20, 2013 in Fun and health, Healthovers Blog, Healthy Practices, Mind-Body |

What is playfulness? If you’re reaching for the dictionary on this word, toss it aside! Playfulness can’t be described with words. It’s a feeling, and it’s one that can easily be neglected in this world and in health. How is playfulness good for your health? When you’re playful, you’re appreciating the lightness that can be experienced in your life. This lightness naturally supports a balanced body and mind, gets you looking forward to new experiences, and helps you enjoy interacting with yourself and the world around you. Naturally when stressful times arise it’s not always possible to bring out your playful side. On the other hand, how many days or weeks go by for people in today’s current lifestyle that aren’t riddled with stress in some way? Let’s be realistic and say that playfulness can sometimes appear on the endangered feelings list. Don’t forget to enjoy your personality along the way in life. Playfulness isn’t all about how you appear to the outside world. It’s more about the lightheartedness you allow in your own life, even when life presents you with a regular reel of challenges and missteps. It’s a secret joke exchanged without words. It’s that laugh you share with yourself or someone else. It’s watching yourself, someone else, or your pet do something unexpected and memorable. Playful moments aren’t frivolous, they last for a long time. Handle the daily routines, responsibilities, work, duties, and bills. Just don’t forget to play sometimes too.  ...

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Health and Your Inner Teacher

Health and Your Inner Teacher

By on Aug 26, 2013 in Facing Challenges, Healthovers Blog, Learning, Mind-Body, Practice Health |

When you travel the halls of your memory, who do you remember as your most influential teachers? How did these teachers influence your life and change it for the better? Great teachers spark more than math, literature, or science in your life. They spark something else as well, something deeper and long-lasting that stays with you. As an individual living your life, you have another teacher you may not have touched on in your memory. That teacher is you! When you’re trying to get healthy and support your body and mind better, your inner teacher is key toward achieving what you want. Health involves learning. You learn about your body and which lifestyle habits foster balanced health, versus which habits derail health. But you also learn something else. You learn about yourself as a person, how you face challenges, and which obstacles are blocking your road to health. The journey toward health involves more than regimens for diet, exercise, and sleep. The journey is unique to who you are and where you’re at in life too. Bringing out your inner teacher to learn about your health isn’t always easy. Everyone wants to believe they are perfectly healthy, and sometimes facing the reality that your health needs more support can be challenging. It means admitting that you’re not perfect and that you still have more to learn. It takes knowing that supplements, medications, or doctor’s visits alone can’t keep you healthy. You as a person are an essential part of your health, and acknowledging this fact takes honesty and courage. When you call forth your inner teacher in an open and honest way, you can explore your physical and mental-emotional health through a unique lens. You can ask yourself if there are societal and personal expectations that are burdening you and blocking your health. You can explore whether some part of your past unfairly has a hold on your health and who you are today. You can explore your relationships with yourself and other people to see whether they are supporting or hindering health. You can also notice how you manage stress and emotions and whether your current approach could use some adjustment for better health. Good teachers both challenge...

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What Does It Mean to Be Strong?

What Does It Mean to Be Strong?

By on Aug 13, 2013 in Healthovers Blog, Mind-Body, Practicing Health, Strength |

Strength is a useful quality in life. It helps us persevere, show toughness in the face of adversity, and survive as individuals. We, like all living creatures, are a part of nature and toughness helps us in a world where we don’t always have control over what happens to us. It helps us get what we want, including what we want in our health. Though strength is desirable in life, at times it can be tempting to unnaturally “wear” or force it in order to block out other uncomfortable feelings. What does this mean? Say that you’ve just been through a difficult situation such as leaving a job, moving to a new place, or enduring a break-up. Instead of looking at all the feelings that are bubbling up inside, you decide that you have to be strong. You’re not quite sure why you’re saying this, but you feel that for the sake of yourself and others that it’s better not to rest idly in a state of discomfort or confusion. “YES,” you confirm to yourself, “I have to be strong!” This type of forced or unnatural strength is not the same as true strength. What it’s effectively doing is suppressing a natural instinct to process what you’ve just been through. Maybe you are confused. Maybe you’re hurt. Maybe you’re mad, and even more. You may not necessarily know how to express all the rising feelings, but the firm declaration to not feel them and instead be strong will actually make you feel weaker—not stronger. It takes energy to suppress feelings that want to come out. This drained energy can make you feel tired, and while you look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re being strong, you’ll know on some level that you’re pretending. As you’re blocking yourself in this manner, your health can take a hit and make it even more difficult to move through your challenges. We can all learn to read clues from our bodies and minds on when to exercise strength versus when to encourage a more nurturing and gentle attitude. Just because you’re gentler with yourself through tough times doesn’t make you weak. Toughness and gentleness are two sides of the same coin, attributes...

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Take a Dose of Selfish, and Call Me in the Morning

Take a Dose of Selfish, and Call Me in the Morning

By on Aug 6, 2013 in Healthovers Blog, Mind-Body, Selfishness, What is Health |

When it comes to staying healthy, the role of selfishness can’t be overestimated. We often hear how being selfish is not an admirable way to be. You’re taught that helping others is more satisfying than helping yourself. Giving to others is better than giving to yourself. Caring for others is preferable to caring for yourself. Instead of adopting this mindset, it can be powerful to try out a new one. Take a dose of selfish, and call me in the morning. Attending to personal health requires the skill of being selfish. And yes, it is a skill. We’re so trained to see selflessness as the ideal that being selfish can feel uncomfortable at first. Selfishness, however, is important when trying to achieve anything in life. For example, if you want to publish a book one day, you’d have to be selfish with your time to have the opportunity to write. Want to enter a degree program? Then you’d have to be selfish with your resources and energy expenditure. Do you want to be healthy? In that case, it’s wise to list selfishness among your top health care priorities. It even has to come before diet, exercise, and other specific health care regimens. Being selfish isn’t always bad. Health takes energy, prioritizing, time investment, and putting yourself first. It takes the courage to put your hand up and say “no” when you feel like outside influences are hindering your health. It also takes the brazenness to declare that you as an individual are just as worthy of getting your attention than other people. I’ve seen stubborn cases of skin issues, weight gain, and many other health complaints improve from someone putting his or her foot down and deciding to be more selfish toward health and life in general. It’s not always easy. When you decide to be more selfish, fears can arise surrounding doing things your own way and for yourself. You might be scared of how people you know will react. Your new approach can snag on others’ expectations of you and the attention they’re used to getting from you. Being there for yourself and for others doesn’t have to be mutually exclusive, however. When you are taking care...

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Do You Believe in Magic?

Do You Believe in Magic?

By on Jul 29, 2013 in Healthovers Blog, Inspire Health, Magic, Mind-Body, Music, What is Health |

What is magic? Is it all “abracadabra” and “hocus pocus,” or is there something more to it? We often describe childhood as having a magical quality to it and we fondly remember the magic surrounding a first kiss. Once these periods of time pass, sadly, the words “magic” and “magical” are used less often and presumed to have a polar relationship to the word “adult.” Magic is actually a real and integral part of both life and health for kids and adults alike, and it surrounds each of us—if we pay attention to it. I recently had the opportunity to go see a Huey Lewis and the News concert and undeniably, the adults in the audience were re-experiencing the magic they had felt during their childhoods and teenage years. As most of you probably know, Huey Lewis and the News are a San Francisco-based American band with a unique and catchy style of music that is a genre unto itself. Their music not only captures the pizzazz of the decade during which their songs played regularly on the radio (the 1980’s), but it embodies the thrum and energy of life and magic itself. How could I gauge this? Half of the audience was younger and attending their first Huey Lewis and the News concert. Though times have changed since the 80’s, people continue to be attracted to music that captures life and youthful magic the way that Huey’s songs do. If you’re interested, check out their music!  www.hueylewisandthenews.com Have you ever heard a song, read a book, or watched a movie that instantly transports you back to a time when you remember magic swirling around you? If so, how does it make you feel when this happens? For many, the immediate euphoric sensation may come with a twinge of sadness or nostalgia afterward. It can be bitter-sweet to remember times that felt more innocent and unburdened such as those felt during youth. When we’re young, the world feels open and new like an unexplored gift. Though music and other forms of art can capture these memories and their magical quality, we quickly realize that there’s no way to go back in time. You know what, though? That’s okay. There...

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